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The Internet, News, and Negativity: If You're Looking for It, You'll Find It

Writer's picture: Heather RogersHeather Rogers

Updated: Jan 5




We live in a world where the internet and media are more accessible than ever before. At our fingertips, we have endless streams of information, updates, and news pouring into our lives. But with this access comes an overwhelming reality: negativity is everywhere, and if you're looking for it, you’ll find it.

The news cycle thrives on negativity, often bombarding us with stories of disaster, conflict, and chaos. It's no secret that headlines promoting fear and outrage generate more clicks than those celebrating peace and positivity. Why? Our brains are hardwired to pay attention to threats—it’s a survival instinct. Unfortunately, this constant exposure to negativity can take a toll on our mental and emotional health, leaving us feeling drained, anxious, or hopeless.

But does it have to be this way?


The Search for Negativity

One of the most significant challenges with the internet is that it reflects what we search for. Our social media algorithms, search engines, and even the news we consume are curated based on our behaviors. The more we seek out negative stories, controversies, or polarizing opinions, the more we’ll see them in our feeds. It's like a feedback loop—whatever we pay attention to, the internet gives us more of it.

If you’re focused on finding negativity, you’ll find it everywhere. Even the smallest inconvenience can be blown out of proportion when you’re already stressed and frustrated. In a world where negative stories are so easy to access, it's crucial to recognize this tendency and work to shift our focus.


The Division During Election Seasons

This tendency for negativity seems to intensify during specific periods, particularly during presidential elections. The divisiveness in political rhetoric can fuel an already hostile environment, with emotions running high and conversations often charged with anger and frustration. Campaigns and media outlets usually focus on sowing discord and highlighting what divides us rather than what unites us.

But instead of allowing election seasons to exacerbate negativity, we can choose to engage in solutions-based conversations. True change comes when we turn division into dialogue, negativity into collaboration, and opposition into opportunities for growth. How can we rise above the noise, emotional outbursts, and conflict? By focusing on transparency, open-mindedness, and finding common ground with those around us.


Shifting Focus: From Negativity to Solutions

The good news is that just as you can find negativity, you can also find positivity—and in times of heightened division, it’s more important than ever. The internet and news media aren’t inherently bad—they're simply tools. It's up to us how we use them. By being more intentional about the content we engage with, we can train our minds to focus on solutions rather than problems and work toward common goals rather than conflict.

Start by seeking out conversations that prioritize understanding over winning. Follow creators, communities, and news outlets that focus on finding shared values rather than amplifying differences. Engage with content that encourages self-reflection, learning, and growth rather than feeding division. Curate your feed to reflect the type of world you want to live in—a world where challenges are met with resilience and solutions outweigh fear.


The Power of Transparency and Emotional Intelligence

To move forward, we need to engage in conversations with true transparency—without hiding behind emotional reactions. Emotional intelligence is key here. It allows us to acknowledge our emotions without letting them drive our interactions. When we communicate with honesty and vulnerability, we open the door to meaningful connections and accurate solutions.

However, transparency also requires us to listen actively, without judgment or defensiveness. It’s about coming to the table with the intention of finding common ground—not necessarily agreeing on everything, but at least understanding where others are coming from. When we approach conversations from a place of curiosity, openness, and respect, we create the possibility for constructive dialogue that benefits not only ourselves but our neighbors and communities as well.


The Power of Choice

It's important to remember that we have a choice in what we consume and how we interact. You don’t have to be a passive participant in the media cycle or a bystander to division; you can actively decide what to invite into your life. This doesn’t mean ignoring the world's problems or avoiding difficult conversations—it means creating a balance that nurtures your well-being while fostering positive change.

Start by limiting your exposure to the constant barrage of fear-driven headlines. Give yourself permission to step away from social media when it becomes overwhelming. Set boundaries around your media consumption and create habits that encourage mindfulness and mental clarity.

By taking charge of your mental and emotional energy, you’ll find that the world is not as dark or divided as it sometimes seems. There are incredible stories of human kindness, collaboration, and hope if you’re open to seeing them. While negativity will always exist, it doesn’t have to dominate your perspective or interactions.


Rising Above the Noise

The internet and media reflect our intentions. If you're looking for negativity, you’ll find it. But if you focus on positivity, solutions, and common ground, you can change the way you experience the world—especially in times of division like election seasons. By consciously choosing what you engage with and how you interact with others, you can protect your mental health, nurture your spirit, and create a more balanced relationship with the news and social media.

Let’s make the choice to rise above the negativity, turning division into dialogue and seeking the light—even when the world feels heavy. Only then can we create a better future for ourselves, our neighbors, and our communities.

Friendship, Wellness and Wisdom, Podcast with Rachel Vaglio and Heather Rogers



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